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Alone. Unloved. Insufficient. Unwanted. Defective. Imperfect. Uninvited. Inadequate. Deficient. Desolate. Unworthy. Failure. Incomplete. Rejected.

We all know the feeling. You know what I’m talking about. The sting of being left out. The burn of not quite being good enough. The sheer pain of rejection. The feeling that comes from someone saying: “I don’t choose you” or “You aren’t good enough.”

Rejection causes a blinding hurt that you won’t soon forget. The emotional pain of rejection is linked to physical pain. Rejection literally hurts. Rejection is an ugly tool that the enemy uses in attempts to steal joy and render the Children of God useless for His Purposes.

The enemy tries to get you to believe that you aren’t good enough. That God would never use you. That God doesn’t use people like you. That you are too dirty or sinful to ever be used. That you don’t have enough friends or education to do what He has called you to do. That you’re unwanted so you would be ineffective even if you tried. That you always mess everything up. That you were uninvited last weekend, so nobody cares about you anyway.

You’ve had thoughts like these? Me too. In fact, feelings of inadequacy has been one of my biggest struggles since I decided to chase the Call of God on my life at full speed. When I decided to stop pursuing my own interests and surrendered to the Will of God was when the enemy first started planting paralyzing seeds of rejection in my mind.

At times, I’ve found myself upset with God. Asking: “Why would You let me feel like this?” In those moments, the enemy had accomplished his goal. I felt defeated and powerless. It can be hard to talk about feeling helpless as a Christian because it is admitting moments of faithlessness and falling short. It wasn’t until I stopped blaming God for allowing me to feel pain and brought it to Him for healing that I received the answers I was looking for. God gave me a few key revelations that have significantly changed the way I handle feelings of hurt and rejection:

  • God didn’t design us for rejection.
  • God can’t heal something we don’t bring to Him.
  • We are made complete only in Him, so it doesn’t matter if you have human approval.
  • He doesn’t want us to feel that way.
  • He created us in His image, so we weren’t created to be insufficient.
  • We are so loved that He died for us.

So instead of believing the ugly lies of the enemy, declare them invalid in the name of Jesus. Recognize the lie and cast it out, then quickly replace it with Truth. For instance:

The enemy lies: “You’ll never be good enough to do anything important”

God says: “I laid out extravagant plans for your life to bring Me glory before you were born”

The enemy lies: “You’re not as pretty or as smart as they are”

God says: “You are fearfully and wonderfully made, don’t fall into comparison”

The enemy lies: “Nobody loves you or wants you”

God says: “I love you so much that I send my Son for you”

By replacing the lies with Truth, you prevent the lies from taking root in your mind. You prevent the vicious feelings of rejection from haunting you and rendering you weak and insecure. Live loved and access all that He has for you!

xoxo,

Taylor

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Start Chasing Your Calling

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Hello friends!

I’ve been thinking and studying callings a lot lately. I’ve started John Bevere’s study “Called” (which I highly recommend) and the information has been extremely eye opening. As students in high school, teens are expected to decide what to do for the rest of their lives. If you really think about it, it sounds astronomically ridiculous. We are supposed to know what to decide for ourselves what to do for the rest of our lives at 18?! No wonder so many people are miserable at their jobs! HUMANS ARE NEVER EQUIPPED TO DECIDE THEIR CALLING! So why would we think we could do it at 18?

When we decide what to do after school, we think about what WE want. We think about what WE are good at. How much money WE want to make. How long WE want to go to school. The benefits WE want. What a recipe for disaster!!! How can we expect God to bless the plans we make ourselves. Why would we think we could do God’s job? Let me be the first to say that I’m not very good at His job! I spent two years in college pursuing my own interests before I finally sought God on my calling and let Him redirect my steps. We can’t pursue our own interests and expect His blessing. It’s that simple.

At the end of our days we will give an account for how we lived out our days on this planet. We will be held responsible for THE THINGS WE DID IN OUR CALLING! Yes, you read that right. You are responsible for living out the call that God has placed on your life. He has given us a divine purpose, and it is so so important that we fulfill His plans.

Here’s what you need to know about your calling:

  • Your calling is specific to you: You have been given a purpose. You have plans to fulfill. If you ignore the call of God on your life, then your Kingdom work will be completed by someone who is willing.
  • Servant is your identity: If you aren’t seeking to serve God and people, then you aren’t living out God’s will. You can only please the Lord when you are doing His will. Jesus, King of the Universe, came to the Earth to serve and not to be served. We must follow His example to live in His will.
  • God has things to say about you: He tells us that we have a purpose. He says that we are loved, even after all that we have done. He says He can use us as long as we are WILLING AND OBEDIENT. He says we are His children! He wants the best for His kids and gives us the perfect call for our strengths and skills.
  • It may surprise you: When God revealed to me that I was called to ministry, I honestly wondered if I was hearing Him right. I wondered if He had the right person. If He knew what an imperfect person He was telling to serve Him in the ministry. He revealed to me that He makes no mistakes. I later found out that nobody else was really surprised by my calling. It seemed to fit me after I finally agreed to do what God wanted instead of pursue my own interests. Be willing to do ANYTHING He tells you because only He has control.
  • It might be uncomfortable: When you live according to His will, things tend to get uncomfortable at times. Our flesh doesn’t like to be inconvenienced. It is harder to walk by faith than by sight. It was terrifying for me to shift my focus after working (HARD) for two years towards a degree that I will likely never use. However, if I had talked to God about my calling before I ran full force in a direction He wasn’t calling me to, I would never have needed to turn around. James 4:17 tells us, “Remember, it is a sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.” This verse does not only apply to living a wholesome life. It also means that not following what God directly tells you is a SIN!
  • The benefits package is pretty great: Eternal fulfillment and rewards sound pretty great? Yeah, I thought so too. But that’s not all! He gives us rewards in this life too when we choose to follow His lead! How great is that news?! GOD IS SO GREAT! He rewards us for walking in the amazing plans He designed specifically for us before we were even born! WHAT?! How awesome is that deal?! YES PLEASE!!

If thinking about the call on your life makes you want to jump out of your seat, you’re not alone! It is so exciting that our God has plans just for us that will FULFILL THE DESIRES OF OUR HEARTS! Psalm 37:4 tells us, “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” So, delight in His ways and His plans because you will never feel more fulfilled.

Xoxo,

Taylor

Goals for 2018

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Hey friends!

I hope you’re having a fantastic start to 2018! In the spirit of the season, I’ve been thinking a lot about New Year’s resolutions. I don’t tend to make them since they don’t usually stick with us past January (at least for me). So, this year I’ve created a list of long-term goals instead of short-term resolutions. I can’t wait to share them with you guys so you can help stay accountable! Shoot me an email or a comment with your goals for 2018! I hope that my list can inspire you to create one as well! Here are my goals for 2018:

  • Walk in God’s best: This means walking in my calling. Too often, we resist the call of God on our lives and pursue our own interests. This year it is my goal to embrace what God is trying to do in my life and walk in all that He has planned for my life. I want to turn away from anything that is not in His plans for my life and pursue the things of God without any hesitation.
  • Let go of worry: God commands us not to be anxious. He knows everything that we will ever face and still tells us not to be anxious. Obviously, He knows a little more than we do! This year I want to let go of my stress and worry and focus on the Kingdom. We have the full ability to let go of worry because the things of this life are not eternal.  
  • Get out of my comfort zone: Walking in your calling is not going to be comfortable. I want to step outside of my bubble and be led by the Holy Spirit. I want to mature spiritually and grow in confidence. I want to be bolder. I want to spend more time declaring the things of God over my life and commanding mountains to move.
  • Slow down: I want to spend less time on me and more time with Him. I want to spend less time being “busy” and spend more time lead by the Spirit. I want to be willing to give up my plans to do His work whenever He prompts me. God doesn’t work on our schedule, so I have to be willing to drop what I’m doing and follow Him.
  • Live a life of constant worship: I want to do everything solely for the Lord. I want to walk in obedience and constantly meditate on His Word. I want to work for Him, serve for Him, give for Him, love others for Him, forgive for Him, as well as everything else in my life.
  • Be a blessing: This year I want to give more, serve more, and love more. I want to show God’s glory through my actions and words. I want to speak life and pray for others every day. I want to share the Good News and reach those in need. I want to change the world for others by showing them the love of God.
  • Experience exponential growth: I declare exponential growth in all areas of my life. But more specifically in my desire to serve the Lord, prayer life, giving, wisdom, and spiritual maturity.

There is a specific Scripture that the Lord gave me to stand on this year:

Psalm 16:8 “I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for He is right beside me.”

I know it’s not a coincidence that it aligns with every one of my goals. God gave me this specific verse to give me the strength to trust Him and His purposes and promises. He knows exactly what we need. Ask God where He is calling you this year! I challenge you to create goals to make this year the best yet! I declare a blessing over your life in the upcoming year!

Xoxo,

Taylor

Don’t Make Salvation the Standard

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Hello sweet friends!

The holiday season is such a fun time of year! I hope yours is going well! It is an amazing time that we get to celebrate our Savior’s birth. It is also a time of year that our culture focuses on romance and “love.” October marks the beginning of “boyfriend season.” It is a time of year where everyone seems to want a relationship more than ever. They want to do “cute Christmas couple things” together. They want to post all about it on social media for everyone to see. They want to feel included. They want to feel important. They want to feel “loved.” They would rather have a meaningless relationship so they can “do it for the gram” than wait for a worthwhile relationship.

In the past week, I have been asked three different times by three different individuals if I was worried about being “alone” at Christmas. My answer to each individual is absolutely not. God tells us that we are NEVER ALONE. It is so much better to have a quality relationship that is centered around God than having one just to fill up your latest Instagram theme. That means that it won’t happen in your timing. And, you may be “alone” at Christmas.

In order to find a blessed and God-centered relationship, you have to realize a few key points:

Salvation is NOT the bottom line: So many believers believe that once they are saved, they are done. This couldn’t be further from the truth. God wants to use every single person to do amazing things. He didn’t create you to get saved and sit around waiting for His return. So you shouldn’t be expecting to find a Godly relationship when you are saved, but not pursuing God every. single. day. Godly people seek other Godly people, so to find one you have to be one. Likewise, if you only want a Godly person to pursue you, you must be so immersed in your relationship with God that others don’t have the nerve to come near you.  

Not all believers are equally yoked: The Bible tells us several times not to become unequally yoked. Many believers take this as the freedom to choose any other believer as a life partner. They see other believers choosing unbelievers, so they truly think that they are doing what is right. My friends, that is a seriously dangerous mindset. Anyone can be saved, but not everyone serves God. Not everyone chooses to pursue Him with all that they have. SO WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR A LUKEWARM CHRISTIAN?! Sweet friend, that is not what God has planned for your life! Saying that all believers pursue God at the same level is like saying that all basketball players play at the same level. A third-grade basketball player and a professional basketball player would never be fit to play on the same team. It just doesn’t make sense. The third-grade player would have a lot of work to put in and maturing to do before they play as a professional. The same goes for believers.

Each one is at a different place in their spiritual maturity and relationship with the Lord. Instead of searching for another Christian, you should be searching for a Christian that is headed in the same direction that you are. There is a huge difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man. Your goal in dating should be to eventually find a spouse. A spouse is not meant to complete you, they are meant to be a partner to chase God with for the remainder of your earthly lives. You were not meant to date someone who will hold you back and hinder your relationship with God. You were meant to be with someone who will drag you to church on the days when you really don’t feel like going. You were meant to be with someone who prays for and with you on a regular basis. They should be pushing you. If you aren’t better together than you were alone, the relationship is flat out not worth your time.

You have to be willing to wait: Waiting is not the end of the world. It is better to be “alone” for the holidays than to be in a relationship that God didn’t initiate. Don’t get caught up in the hashtags and peer pressures. Pursue God with everything you have and He will direct your steps. You don’t have to do this alone. Don’t force a bad relationship because you don’t want to be alone. YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.

 

We have to start expecting more. We have to stop settling for lukewarm and pursue others with a fire burning for the Lord. Mediocrity is not okay when we are called to do GREATER WORKS THAN JESUS. It’s time to step up and start acting like children of the Almighty God and consult Him in our relationships. Trust me. He will tell you exactly what He thinks. It is up to you to listen.

 

Xoxo,

Taylor    

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Let it Go

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Hey!

I have something super important that God has placed on my heart that I have to share with you guys! I have a huge burden on my heart to help young women with Biblical dating, as it is a place that I’ve struggled a lot myself. When you finally realize that He is your forever Groom, you will take more care in selecting your earthly one.

I’ve spent a lot of time praying for the wrong relationships. I’ve wasted too much energy asking God to improve situations that He didn’t put into my life. I wanted so badly for them to work out that I was blind to the fact that He had something far better than my wildest imagination in store.

We have to stop trying fix relationships that aren’t in God’s plans. We have to stop trying to revive a relationship that hurts our relationship with God. GOD DOES NOT RESUSCITATE THINGS THAT HE DID NOT BREATHE LIFE INTO. So we need to start asking for clarity to hand the situation His way. If He isn’t in it, it will never work out. If He isn’t in it, it isn’t worth one more moment of your time. He has unimaginably amazing plans for our life, but we have to be willing to give up what isn’t ours.

The best dating advice I could possibly give you is to just give it all to God. Devote yourself to Him alone and He will lead you down the right path. He will show you the way. Become so immersed in the things of God that the wrong kind of people don’t want anything to do with you. They will most likely see you as boring because you refuse to compromise your morals. However, a relationship without God in the middle is not a blessed relationship. It is better to wait for God to show you the right relationship than to force something that will never be blessed.

Remember that you do not need to be in a relationship to be complete. You are already a complete person all on your own. God makes you complete. There is no person on Earth that can ever complete you. That is a job for God himself. Only He can do it. Don’t place that kind of pressure on someone. And don’t sit around waiting to truly live until you have a significant other in your life. Don’t hold back. Do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Right now.

Here’s a truth bomb that may sting a little. IF YOU FEEL INCOMPLETE ON YOUR OWN, YOU ARE NOT READY TO DATE. When you are ready to date, you will be so confident in your relationship with God that you know you are whole. You will be at peace with the fact that you could never marry because you know that He is more than enough. It is not worth trying to date before then because it is unlikely that it will lead to a Godly marriage. It is like trying to catch a shark in the creek. You won’t find what you’re really looking for and will settle for something less. Godly marriages are for two whole people to pursue God together. They are NOT for two incomplete people to “save” each other.

So, lovelies please remember these important points in your dating life:

  • God does not resuscitate what He didn’t breathe life into
  • Seek Him first and the rest will come later
  • You are a whole person all on your own and don’t need to be “completed”

Xoxo,

Taylor

Don’t Waste Your Off Season

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Hey, hey!

I’ve been struggling with something a little lately, and my guess is that you do too at times. I get so caught up in the next big thing, that I forget to be thankful for the current season. I get so focused on what is next and new, that I forget all about the here and now. How about you? Yeah, I thought so.

Since my family is so sports-centered, I’ve been thinking a lot about the “off-season.” We tend to live for the big things. The start of a new job, graduations, relationships, promotions, and the list goes on. We try to live from one big thing to the next and merely survive the time in between. This time could be days, weeks, months, or even years. We don’t see anything significant in the time between one big thing and the next. I find myself guilty of this all the time. We miss too much time that we could enjoy by considering it the wait for the next big thing. But please, please understand: EVERY MOMENT IS SIGNIFICANT.

You may be in the “off-season,” but you still have work to do. Athletes use the off-season to prepare for the next season. They use it to become stronger and smarter. They evaluate their prior performances and determine a plan for improvement. True athletes know that champions are made in the off-season. The same goes for believers.

There is a purpose for the season you are in currently. It may be a big time, or it may feel like an off-season. No matter the season, it is not a waste. This may be the season that you gain the knowledge or resources to excel in your next season. It is important. It is a time to seek the Kingdom in full force. The times when God seems silent are the seasons that He is preparing the biggest blessings. Don’t waste another second. Get out there and train harder than ever before.

It won’t be easy though. The enemy wants to convince you that this season holds no significance. He wants to pull you further from the Kingdom and throw you off course. If you get distracted and don’t train in your off season, you won’t be ready for the big things to come. You could miss the experiences or knowledge you were meant to get during this season that will prepare you for bigger things. Don’t let the enemy steal your future. Take it back!

Every second counts. Don’t miss what is going on now because you can’t wait to get to the next thing. Take the time to learn all that you can in your off-season. Slow down and enjoy every moment that is given to you. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll discover that this isn’t an off season at all!

 

Xoxo,

Taylor

Elevate Your Circle

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I have a challenge for you today! I want to challenge you to evaluate your circle. By circle, I mean your circle of influence. The people around you who influence you and the people that you influence. Take inventory of these people. What are their goals? How hard to they work? What do their attitudes look like? How do they handle adversity? What do they do when they don’t get their way or when their plans are ruined? These people may be family, friends, mentors, role models, coworkers, etc. Do an honest evaluation, because there is a very good chance that you possess similar traits.

Are you happy with your evaluation? Do you want to have the same tendencies as the people in your circle? Or do you hold yourself to a higher standard? Do you want to achieve the same level of success as the people in your circle? Or do you want more for your future? You are the only person who can change your future. What do you want out of your life?

Oh, you want to walk in all the things that God has planned for your life? Great!!! Having a desire to live in God’s best is the first step in changing your situation. Now here’s where things get a bit tricky. Any time you step into something better, it is going to be uncomfortable. It’s like going up a staircase to a higher floor. The more levels you climb, the more your legs will burn. But, there is something better on each level. Keep climbing because you want the penthouse view on the very top. You will never get a penthouse view with a basement effort. It will take awhile to get there. And it will certainly be uncomfortable, but it is better to put in the work and get to the top than to stop on the second floor and wonder what you could have experienced if you had kept going.

If you are going to live in God’s best, you need to surround yourself with the right people. IF YOU ARE THE MOST FAITHFUL PERSON YOU KNOW, YOU NEED TO MEET NEW PEOPLE. If there is nobody in your circle who can push you to do better and hold you accountable, then you need to step out of your comfort zone and bring new people into your circle. You may have to leave some people behind. Now, I’m not telling you to quit your job because you don’t like your coworkers or ditch your parents because you don’t always agree with them. Some people are permanent, like your family or your coworkers for a season. But I am telling you to evaluate those people who are not permanent, like your friends. Are they building you up? Or are they draining you? Are they a negative influence? Or are they pushing you to grow your relationship with God? Are they lazy? Or are they chasing after their goals and encouraging you to do the same?

If your friends aren’t adding something to your life, then they need to go. You don’t have room for the people who are going to drag you down. You don’t have room for people who tell you that your dreams are just dreams that aren’t worth chasing. Those people are going to keep you in this season of life and prevent you from elevating because they don’t want anyone around them to achieve more than them. Small minded people are uncomfortable with success. They want to keep you from going where they have told themselves that they can’t go. Don’t let their limits leak over onto you. You have too much to do to waste time thinking you can’t get it done. If you are surrounded with people who aren’t doing anything, it’s time to bring new people into your circle.

There are certain kinds of people that you should put in your circle. These people are faithful. They are honest with you. They challenge you. They push you to become better. They are setting goals and achieving them. They have achieved more than you! It is important to surround yourself with people who have achieved more than you. You want to be around people who look like what you want to be. You will become like the people around you. So pick those people wisely. Don’t pick people who are going to hold you back or limit you. Pick the people who are doing great things. Elevate your circle today and be the best you that you can be!

 

Xoxo,

Taylor