I have something super important that God has placed on my heart that I have to share with you guys! I have a huge burden on my heart to help young women with Biblical dating, as it is a place that I’ve struggled a lot myself. When you finally realize that He is your forever Groom, you will take more care in selecting your earthly one.
I’ve spent a lot of time praying for the wrong relationships. I’ve wasted too much energy asking God to improve situations that He didn’t put into my life. I wanted so badly for them to work out that I was blind to the fact that He had something far better than my wildest imagination in store.
We have to stop trying fix relationships that aren’t in God’s plans. We have to stop trying to revive a relationship that hurts our relationship with God. GOD DOES NOT RESUSCITATE THINGS THAT HE DID NOT BREATHE LIFE INTO. So we need to start asking for clarity to hand the situation His way. If He isn’t in it, it will never work out. If He isn’t in it, it isn’t worth one more moment of your time. He has unimaginably amazing plans for our life, but we have to be willing to give up what isn’t ours.
The best dating advice I could possibly give you is to just give it all to God. Devote yourself to Him alone and He will lead you down the right path. He will show you the way. Become so immersed in the things of God that the wrong kind of people don’t want anything to do with you. They will most likely see you as boring because you refuse to compromise your morals. However, a relationship without God in the middle is not a blessed relationship. It is better to wait for God to show you the right relationship than to force something that will never be blessed.
Remember that you do not need to be in a relationship to be complete. You are already a complete person all on your own. God makes you complete. There is no person on Earth that can ever complete you. That is a job for God himself. Only He can do it. Don’t place that kind of pressure on someone. And don’t sit around waiting to truly live until you have a significant other in your life. Don’t hold back. Do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Right now.
Here’s a truth bomb that may sting a little. IF YOU FEEL INCOMPLETE ON YOUR OWN, YOU ARE NOT READY TO DATE. When you are ready to date, you will be so confident in your relationship with God that you know you are whole. You will be at peace with the fact that you could never marry because you know that He is more than enough. It is not worth trying to date before then because it is unlikely that it will lead to a Godly marriage. It is like trying to catch a shark in the creek. You won’t find what you’re really looking for and will settle for something less. Godly marriages are for two whole people to pursue God together. They are NOT for two incomplete people to “save” each other.
So, lovelies please remember these important points in your dating life:
- God does not resuscitate what He didn’t breathe life into
- Seek Him first and the rest will come later
- You are a whole person all on your own and don’t need to be “completed”