Get Bold

Boldness

Hey!

Let’s talk! Have you ever felt like you’re just going through the motions? Me too….and it’s not a good feeling. It is easy to get caught up in the routine and let our fire burn out. It is one of the worst feelings. It is very important that you don’t get stuck here. One of the most dangerous things in the world is unused potential. So today, I am challenging you to be bold!

Boldness mixed with faith is a serious spiritual weapon. When you have the faith to trust God and the boldness to follow through, you are unstoppable. In Acts 4, the members of the church pray for spiritual boldness to accomplish the things of God…….and it is given to them. Ask God to help you to be bold today! He will help you to be bold and give you the strength to do His Will if you will only ask. After praying and seeking spiritual boldness, here are a few things you can do to stay bold:

  • Don’t settle: Never settle for less than what God has in mind for your life. There will be temptations to take the easy way out, but please resist. Never take the easy way out because you are going to miss out on the blessings that are in store for you at certain parts of your journey.
  • Do it right: Do everything you do to the best of your ability, and make sure it is done the right way. Never take shortcuts or cheat the system. Why you may get away with is in the short term, it will catch up to you. And while you may think that noone sees what you are doing, people are always watching. And, God always knows what you’re doing, so it’s better to just do it the right way.
  • Dream bigger than everyone else: Don’t get bound to the phrase “be realistic.” People who live by this phrase are sadly bound to low expectations. Don’t be afraid to dream bigger than everyone else around you. God’s plans for your life are so big that you don’t even have the ability to comprehend them, so dream as big as you possibly can. Dream so big that you are uncomfortable telling small minded people. Not everyone will support you, but you don’t need their approval, you need His approval.
  • Be intentional: When you have big dreams, they don’t do you any good if you don’t put them into action. You need to create a plan of action and get with it. Put your plan into action and get after it. Run so hard at your dream that people are scared to stop you. Don’t wait for confirmation. Pursue your God-given dreams actively and He will provide your next steps. Live with purpose all the time. If you wait for your purpose to fall in your lap, you will miss it entirely.
  • Never let anyone dull your sparkle: There is something so special about you. It’s something that only you have. You are unique. You have talents and abilities that only you possess. Use them. There are certain ideas that only you can come up with. Some ventures that only you were meant to take. You have a divine purpose and only you were made perfectly for your path. Don’t let someone who doesn’t believe in you steal your joy and dull your sparkle. The world needed one of you. Don’t let small minded people keep you from God’s best.

So, sweet friend, today I challenge you to be bold! Be the best you that you can be. No one else is like you. Nobody can do what you do! Be bold enough to ask for what you want and not settle for less. Never give up and never let anyone dull your sparkle!

Xoxo,

Taylor  

Additional Resources:

  1. SOAR! By T.D. Jakes is a fantastic book for beginning entrepreneurs! It is also great for just stepping out of your comfort zone. It is a must-read!  
  2. Girl Code is an excellent read for any and all females. It talks about how to build a business from the ground up and supporting other women. Great read!
  3. How to Win Friends and Influence People this book gives you all the basics of dealing with people and increasing your influence. It also helps you to improve your influence. It is a must-have for anyone who wants to do something big!

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Get After It

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Hey you! Yes, you! What are you waiting for? You know what you’re supposed to do! You have a calling, don’t ignore it! Why are you still waiting for confirmation? You KNOW this. If you wait too long, you are going to miss your window. You have an opportunity that you need to take. If you don’t the situation is never going to change.

You may be wondering how you’re supposed to go after it when you are still waiting on resources and materials that you need to go after this goal. It may seem impossible at this point because you don’t have what you need. I know how you feel. I’ve been the one dragging my feet because I didn’t feel prepared. But, guess what? God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called. He is waiting on your obedience to equip you for this journey. You have been sitting around waiting on God to make a way, when He’s telling you that this IS the way. He wants to bless you beyond your wildest dreams, so take a chance and listen to Him.

Instead of sitting around wondering when God is going to make this happen for you, get out there and pursue the path He has for you. He isn’t going to push you through the door, He has already opened it for you. It is your job to walk through it. Don’t hesitate. You don’t know how long that door will stay open. If you choose to wait for a miraculous sign in order to act, you will miss your chance. You aren’t going to get a miraculous sign that confirms your calling before you choose to pursue it. God confirms his plans to you AFTER you are obedient. Not before. This is how faith works. You may not know what is on the other side of the door, but you walk through it anyway because you trust your Father to have your best interest at heart.

I’m not going to lie to you. This is going to be tough. Nothing worth pursuing is ever easy and done without sacrifice. You may have to walk away from certain things or people to get where He is calling you. You may have to leave things you love behind. You will face opposition. You will come under attack when you are on the right path. There will be times when you think don’t think this is worth it. When you feel like this was a big mistake. There will be times when you have no idea what you’re doing and you’re scared to death. There will be times where you feel like you’re flying by the seat of your pants and times where you feel like you are walking into it blind. But please, never give up.

This world needs someone like you. It needs what God is trying to do through you. You have a purpose. It comes with a cost, but the reward is far beyond the limits of your imagination. Your greatest aspirations will make God laugh. You are His child and He knows what you are capable of. He knew you before Creation and decided that you needed to be put on Earth. That is special. You can do this. The God of the Universe is ordering your steps. Don’t get too caught up in confirmation that you miss your calling. Get. After. It.

 

Xoxo,

Taylor

Tips for Handling Finances in College

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Hey there! College can be one of the scariest, but most exciting ventures! Everything changes when you get to college. You may move away from home, your friends, and your family. You leave everything that is your normal life behind. You are now charged with more responsibilities: having a job, getting to classes on time, making good choices without your parents around, when to go to sleep, what to eat, and definitely how to handle your money. If you learn the right way to handle money now while you have little, then you will be much better at it when you graduate and make actual money. Financial discipline is so important in college. Here are my best tips for handling your finances God’s way:

  • Realize that it isn’t your money: Nothing on this earth belongs to us. It all belongs to Him. Therefore, our money is His also. When you realize that your money isn’t really yours, it makes it easier to handle it the right way.
  • Tithe: This is the most important thing you can do with your money. Tithing is giving 10% of your income back to God by giving it to your church. This is the ONLY area in the Bible where God says to test Him. That means He must be pretty serious about it! Many believers don’t know the power of tithing. It is an act of obedience that God uses to bless you abundantly. You aren’t doing Him any favors my tithing, He doesn’t need your money. He is giving you an opportunity to be infinitely blessed. He is doing you the favor by giving you the opportunity to tithe. Tithing is a great blessing. If you are worried about not being able to afford to give God any of your money, remember that it isn’t really yours. Financial success isn’t about how much of your money you give to God, it’s about how much of God’s money you keep. Don’t block your blessing by stealing from God.
  • Give: Giving may seem counterproductive when you’re in a financial rut. I hear you. However, God says that the measure that we give with will be given back to us. This means that if we bless others, we will be blessed. If you are faithful while you have little, then you will be given more. Give where God tells you. If He says to do it, then do it gladly and without hesitation. He gives you opportunities because He wants to multiply your finances. Trust in the God that supplies all of our needs.
  • Save: You should be saving a large part of your money after tithing. Put away money for emergencies and for your future. Don’t spend every dollar that comes into your possession.

 

  • Prioritize your expenses: Make a list of expenses: Tithe, savings, emergency fund, bills, food, gas, shopping, fun, etc. Determine which expenses are necessary and which can come at the end after the necessary expenses are paid. Non-essential expenses should be on the budget if there is no money left over after tithing, saving, and paying bills. You will become better at handling your money and you will begin having more money left over each pay period as you become more disciplined.
  • Stay away from credit cards: Credit cards are rarely a good idea on a college campus. They can cause you to overspend and get deep into debt. You may already have student loans that you will be paying on for years, so you don’t need this added financial burden. Credit cards allow you to spend way more than you have and can quickly devour your finances. It is best to just avoid them in general.
  • Be smart and set goals: Don’t throw away money on things that you don’t need. It is fine to splurge sometimes, but you shouldn’t be making daily trips to the mall. And while you may want a giant fancy coffee every day (my guilty pleasure), it is definitely not in your best interest to make this a daily habit. Make goals to help you stay focused. Make goals for saving. I like to use SMART goals. SMART goals are: specific, measureable, achievable, realistic/relevant, and time-based. When you have goals in mind, you are more likely to handle your finances with care.
  • Start investing: You don’t have to start with a lot, but it is always important to prepare for your future. I really love using STASH because it allows you to invest small amounts and add to it whenever you want. My first investment was literally $5. You can get the app right on your phone and monitor your investments. Use the link to get $5 when you start! $5 for STASH

 

 

While college can provide you with plenty of temptations to drain your finances, it is possible to be financially fit. You don’t have to throw away all of your money in college. It is possible to have money when you graduate. When you do it God’s way, you will have His blessing.

Xoxo,

Taylor

A letter to all unmarried girls

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Hey girl,

We need to talk. This is serious. I’m talking to myself just as much as I am you, but we need to get this out in the open. You are someone’s wife. You may not be married yet, but you are set apart for a certain man, and you don’t want to regret your actions once you meet him. It would be a shame for your wedding day to be less enjoyable because you regret your past. Act like the wife that you are.

You have to be what you want to attract. If you want God’s best, then act like God’s best! Isn’t that what your future husband deserves? Doesn’t he deserve the best that God has for him? Yes!!! He does! And so do you! There are so many books, tweets, posts, and pins about dating and preparing yourself for your future husband. However, the best place to look for advice is right in the Bible. It says a lot about what kind of wife you should be. One of the best places to look for this advice is in Proverbs. It says that a good wife is a treasure. Proverbs 31 lists several traits of a good wife:

  • Virtuous
  • Capable
  • Trustworthy
  • Encouraging
  • A blessing
  • Hardworking
  • Smart
  • Strong
  • Energetic
  • Generous
  • Caring
  • Loving
  • Serving
  • Wise
  • Kind
  • Careful
  • God-fearing
  • Faithful
  • Brings out the best in her husband

These are only a few of the traits of a good wife that the Bible describes. If you want to possess these traits as a wife, then you have to possess them as a single, a girlfriend, and a fiance. You are worth the wait, and so is your future husband. Never give a boyfriend everything. He may say that he will marry you one day, but no vows have been given and no commitments have been made. Here are some tips for acting like the wife that you are BEFORE you get married:

  • Dress like you want other women to dress around your husband: Certain parts of your body are not meant to be shared with others. You wouldn’t want your husband to look at other women, so don’t give other men something to look at.

 

  • Set boundaries and stick to them: There are certain boundaries that should never be crossed while you are dating. I know this is awkward to discuss, but if clothes are removed then you’ve already gone way too far. Set boundaries and never cross them. If he isn’t okay with boundaries, then he isn’t God’s best and he certainly isn’t worth compromising your morals and inviting into your marriage bed. The marriage bed is only meant for two people, there isn’t room for anyone else. Adding other people to this equation just sets you up for regret and disappointment.
  • Seek guidance: Talk to trusted adults in your life. Ask them to hold you accountable and to help you stay on track. Ask them for tips and really listen.
  • Don’t play with fire: Don’t put yourself in situations to compromise your future marriage. Don’t spend too much time alone. Dates in public are perfectly fine, but laying in your bed with your door closed is a recipe for DISASTER. Be smart and only put yourself in good situations. Don’t give the enemy the opportunity to tempt you. This is your marriage we’re talking about. This is a big deal. Don’t sabotage it by giving a boyfriend husband privileges
  • Pray: Pray for your future husband and for your future as a wife. Pray that you have the strength to act like the wife you are called to be. Pray that you maintain your purity. Pray that your husband does the same and that he acts like the husband that he is called to be.

 

The bottom line is that you are a wife. You have to act like it. You have to be what you want. Husbands are called to lay down their lives for their wives, so you have to be a woman that is worth dying for.

Xoxo,

Taylor

A Letter to the Girl who is Broken

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Hey girl,

I know it’s probably not a great time. I know you’re over the “it’s all going to be okay” and the “it’s not the end of the world” talks. Me too. If I’m being completely honest, I’m going through it too. It absolutely stinks. And, it can seem like the end of the world. Heartbreak and disappointment are some of the worst feelings. I know from experience. It is awful. Period.

I’m not here to tell you to get over it. I’m not here to tell you that you shouldn’t be upset. I’m here to tell you that you are loved and that you will get through this. You are exceptional and you are worth it. Tough times will come in life, but it is how you handle them that matters. Are you going to let life beat you down and give up? Or are you going to get back up and keep fighting your fight? I pray that you choose the latter. Beautiful girl, you were made for a divine purpose. You have a skill that no one else has. You are the only one who is perfectly equipped to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. Don’t make Him use someone else.

The enemy attacks those who he knows are on the right path. I’ve recently heard from a pastor that he puts smoke in your house to deter you from pursuing your purpose. I can tell you THAT IS THE TRUTH. In fact, I’ve felt like I’ve had the smoke, fire, and everything else thrown at me in the past week. I know how you feel. I’ve felt like the walls of my life were crumbling down on top of me. These are dangerous thoughts. The enemy is trying to throw you into a storm to distract you from what God is doing in your life. Don’t let him win. HE has already won! I know that this is going to hurt. I know it will take awhile to get over it. I know that you can’t just snap out of it. I get it. But, please know that you are a victor.

You have all of the tools to get through this. Anything that is God’s will, will absolutely come to pass. If it is of God, it will come back to you. The storm you are going through may be the training you need to prepare you for your future. You are getting stronger. You were made for something amazing.

This storm will pass. Hold your head high and eyes up. Pretty girl, you are a victor. God is all you need. You are already complete. Don’t let the smoke distract you from your purpose. It is okay to cry. But, don’t let it stop you. You were made for something great. Take time to grieve and then wipe those tears and do your Kingdom work!

Xoxo,

Taylor  

7 Ways to Improve Your Health

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Everyone is looking for ways to improve their body and health. It is a continuous process often lined with failed attempts and disappointment. Some are even going to vicious extremes to lose weight. A few seek a healthier body and lifestyle, but most are seeking to attain unrealistic standards to please others. They chase fads such as the “thigh gap” or “Barbie body.” A lifestyle change can be detrimental when fueled by the wrong intentions. Here are a few tips for getting healthy the right way:

  • Seek to honor God with your body: This is the absolute key to living a healthy lifestyle. If you don’t live to honor the Father, then you are getting in shape for the wrong reasons. If you get in shape to look like a model, then you will be severely disappointed every time. We should be getting healthy because our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit and created to honor Him.
  • Stay away from harmful substances: You do not need diet pills or drinks to get healthy. These supplements are often full of harmful chemicals and loads of caffeine that not only make you feel jittery, but they could actually kill you. Pumping your body full of harmful chemicals is never the answer.
  • Stay away from ridiculous diets: Any diet that doesn’t include all food groups just isn’t going to work. Especially the ones that only include liquids. You never want to deprive your body of specific nutrients in order to lose weight. Diets, such as those that attempt to remove carbs, are extremely harmful and cause you to gain weight back at an alarming rate after the diet. Your body was created to use nutrients from all six nutrient groups: carbohydrates, proteins, lipids, water, vitamins, and minerals. When you deprive your body of one or more for the purpose of weight loss, you do more damage than good.
  • Never starve yourself or purge: Depriving yourself of food is extremely dangerous and could result in major medical issues or even kill you. Throwing up is also extremely dangerous. Both deprive your body of valuable nutrients necessary to sustain life. You were created for a divine purpose, so you need to be at your very best.
  • Exercise: Healthy exercise not only helps you lose weight, but it also makes you feel better all around. Exercise gives you a boost of endorphins and lifts your mood. It is essential for a healthy lifestyle.
  • Maintain a Balanced Diet: Your diet should include all food groups to be truly healthy. Diets that are too restrictive do not produce lasting results. They are not maintainable. They are not realistic. They are not healthy. Find a plan that you can stick with and get all of the necessary nutrients.
  • Love yourself: You are beautiful. You are wonderfully made. You are awesome. You are enough. You don’t need to lose twenty pounds or have a thigh gap to be loveable or valuable. You are loved just as you are. You are a child of the King. Live to please Him and not them.   

More Than A Friday Night

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Relationships can be a sensitive topic. Everybody has their own opinions and don’t want much advice. People get caught up in doing what they think is right for their relationship instead of looking in the Bible for what God tells us is true. You can’t make up your own rules for your relationship. The Bible lays out clear guidelines for relationships that are not up for negotiation.

Growing up, my parents always told me to “be more than a Friday night girl.” A Friday night girl is the kind of girl that is around on Friday night, but won’t be found sitting in church on Sunday morning. They’re not the kind of girls that a man wants to introduce to their mother or to be a role model for their little sister. This analogy did not truly hit me until I was old enough to see what a Friday night girl really was. While it sounds almost comical, it is one of the best pieces of advice that they’ve given me. It is something that I’ll never forget and it was something I always thought of when I had tough choices to make. It saves you from making choices that you will regret later on. Dating is worth doing the right way. There are a few things that you should know before getting into a relationship:

 

  • DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED: This means that you should KNOW, without a shadow of a doubt, whether or not they know Jesus as their savior. If you allow yourself to be strapped to an unbeliever, it can be very tough to end that relationship later. The Bible tells us not to go there. We should only be dating believers who are going to seek God with us and push us to go deeper in our faith. Unbelievers can actually pull you further from Christ. We are called to love all people, but we are specifically told not to date just anybody.
  • WAIT ON HIS BEST: Don’t get caught up in your desires. It is better to wait on the person God wants for you. Your relationship and future marriage will be far more blessed if you choose not to settle.
  • DON’T GIVE HUSBAND PRIVILEGES TO YOUR BOYFRIEND: You should not be doing things with your boyfriend that are only reserved for your husband. Marriage is a sacred relationship. Even if your boyfriend will be your husband one day, he has not earned husband privileges yet. He has not made that commitment yet. He is not yet responsible for laying his life down for you, and you are not yet responsible for submission. If you give these privileges before he is your husband, you may end up giving them to someone who should never get them.
  • COHABITATION = TRIAL MARRIAGE: While this may sound good, it is certainly not. You are called to be married to only one person. If you live with your boyfriend, you are giving him husband privileges he has not yet earned. You can’t live a married life without the commitment. It is not God’s plan. You will be tempted to do things that you shouldn’t at this point in the relationship. It will create regret, especially if the relationship ends. If you do it God’s way, it will eliminate the regret and result in His best.
  • A MAN SHOULD TOUCH YOUR HEART BEFORE YOUR BODY: Any man you date should be worried about the condition of your heart. He should be pushing you to go deeper in your faith. He should also be growing his faith. He should pray for you and with you. If he doesn’t care about your heart, he only wants your body and that is not a relationship that will last.
  • ONLY DATE SOMEONE YOU COULD MARRY: This is so so so important. Dating is not the same thing as friendship. Dating is something for marriage minded people. Not people who just want to go out and have fun. That is friendship. Treating dating like friendship leads to bad decisions, heartbreak, trouble committing, and regret. The world makes casual dating out to be wonderful and even necessary. It tries to tell us to casually date and get married later on. It is fine to get married later if that is where God is leading you, but He is not leading you to have casual sex in your twenties so that you can save the married and mom life for your thirties.

 

You will attract what you are. If you want to date a Godly man, then be a Godly woman. If you seek God and live by His word, then you’ll attract a man that does the same. If you are going to be a Friday night girl, then you’ll attract a Friday night man. God wants His best for you. It’s up to you to decide to do it right.