Don’t Make Salvation the Standard

Salvation is not the standard

Hello sweet friends!

The holiday season is such a fun time of year! I hope yours is going well! It is an amazing time that we get to celebrate our Savior’s birth. It is also a time of year that our culture focuses on romance and “love.” October marks the beginning of “boyfriend season.” It is a time of year where everyone seems to want a relationship more than ever. They want to do “cute Christmas couple things” together. They want to post all about it on social media for everyone to see. They want to feel included. They want to feel important. They want to feel “loved.” They would rather have a meaningless relationship so they can “do it for the gram” than wait for a worthwhile relationship.

In the past week, I have been asked three different times by three different individuals if I was worried about being “alone” at Christmas. My answer to each individual is absolutely not. God tells us that we are NEVER ALONE. It is so much better to have a quality relationship that is centered around God than having one just to fill up your latest Instagram theme. That means that it won’t happen in your timing. And, you may be “alone” at Christmas.

In order to find a blessed and God-centered relationship, you have to realize a few key points:

Salvation is NOT the bottom line: So many believers believe that once they are saved, they are done. This couldn’t be further from the truth. God wants to use every single person to do amazing things. He didn’t create you to get saved and sit around waiting for His return. So you shouldn’t be expecting to find a Godly relationship when you are saved, but not pursuing God every. single. day. Godly people seek other Godly people, so to find one you have to be one. Likewise, if you only want a Godly person to pursue you, you must be so immersed in your relationship with God that others don’t have the nerve to come near you.  

Not all believers are equally yoked: The Bible tells us several times not to become unequally yoked. Many believers take this as the freedom to choose any other believer as a life partner. They see other believers choosing unbelievers, so they truly think that they are doing what is right. My friends, that is a seriously dangerous mindset. Anyone can be saved, but not everyone serves God. Not everyone chooses to pursue Him with all that they have. SO WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR A LUKEWARM CHRISTIAN?! Sweet friend, that is not what God has planned for your life! Saying that all believers pursue God at the same level is like saying that all basketball players play at the same level. A third-grade basketball player and a professional basketball player would never be fit to play on the same team. It just doesn’t make sense. The third-grade player would have a lot of work to put in and maturing to do before they play as a professional. The same goes for believers.

Each one is at a different place in their spiritual maturity and relationship with the Lord. Instead of searching for another Christian, you should be searching for a Christian that is headed in the same direction that you are. There is a huge difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man. Your goal in dating should be to eventually find a spouse. A spouse is not meant to complete you, they are meant to be a partner to chase God with for the remainder of your earthly lives. You were not meant to date someone who will hold you back and hinder your relationship with God. You were meant to be with someone who will drag you to church on the days when you really don’t feel like going. You were meant to be with someone who prays for and with you on a regular basis. They should be pushing you. If you aren’t better together than you were alone, the relationship is flat out not worth your time.

You have to be willing to wait: Waiting is not the end of the world. It is better to be “alone” for the holidays than to be in a relationship that God didn’t initiate. Don’t get caught up in the hashtags and peer pressures. Pursue God with everything you have and He will direct your steps. You don’t have to do this alone. Don’t force a bad relationship because you don’t want to be alone. YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.


We have to start expecting more. We have to stop settling for lukewarm and pursue others with a fire burning for the Lord. Mediocrity is not okay when we are called to do GREATER WORKS THAN JESUS. It’s time to step up and start acting like children of the Almighty God and consult Him in our relationships. Trust me. He will tell you exactly what He thinks. It is up to you to listen.






Let it Go

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I have something super important that God has placed on my heart that I have to share with you guys! I have a huge burden on my heart to help young women with Biblical dating, as it is a place that I’ve struggled a lot myself. When you finally realize that He is your forever Groom, you will take more care in selecting your earthly one.

I’ve spent a lot of time praying for the wrong relationships. I’ve wasted too much energy asking God to improve situations that He didn’t put into my life. I wanted so badly for them to work out that I was blind to the fact that He had something far better than my wildest imagination in store.

We have to stop trying fix relationships that aren’t in God’s plans. We have to stop trying to revive a relationship that hurts our relationship with God. GOD DOES NOT RESUSCITATE THINGS THAT HE DID NOT BREATHE LIFE INTO. So we need to start asking for clarity to hand the situation His way. If He isn’t in it, it will never work out. If He isn’t in it, it isn’t worth one more moment of your time. He has unimaginably amazing plans for our life, but we have to be willing to give up what isn’t ours.

The best dating advice I could possibly give you is to just give it all to God. Devote yourself to Him alone and He will lead you down the right path. He will show you the way. Become so immersed in the things of God that the wrong kind of people don’t want anything to do with you. They will most likely see you as boring because you refuse to compromise your morals. However, a relationship without God in the middle is not a blessed relationship. It is better to wait for God to show you the right relationship than to force something that will never be blessed.

Remember that you do not need to be in a relationship to be complete. You are already a complete person all on your own. God makes you complete. There is no person on Earth that can ever complete you. That is a job for God himself. Only He can do it. Don’t place that kind of pressure on someone. And don’t sit around waiting to truly live until you have a significant other in your life. Don’t hold back. Do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Right now.

Here’s a truth bomb that may sting a little. IF YOU FEEL INCOMPLETE ON YOUR OWN, YOU ARE NOT READY TO DATE. When you are ready to date, you will be so confident in your relationship with God that you know you are whole. You will be at peace with the fact that you could never marry because you know that He is more than enough. It is not worth trying to date before then because it is unlikely that it will lead to a Godly marriage. It is like trying to catch a shark in the creek. You won’t find what you’re really looking for and will settle for something less. Godly marriages are for two whole people to pursue God together. They are NOT for two incomplete people to “save” each other.

So, lovelies please remember these important points in your dating life:

  • God does not resuscitate what He didn’t breathe life into
  • Seek Him first and the rest will come later
  • You are a whole person all on your own and don’t need to be “completed”



Don’t Waste Your Off Season

Don't waste the off season

Hey, hey!

I’ve been struggling with something a little lately, and my guess is that you do too at times. I get so caught up in the next big thing, that I forget to be thankful for the current season. I get so focused on what is next and new, that I forget all about the here and now. How about you? Yeah, I thought so.

Since my family is so sports-centered, I’ve been thinking a lot about the “off-season.” We tend to live for the big things. The start of a new job, graduations, relationships, promotions, and the list goes on. We try to live from one big thing to the next and merely survive the time in between. This time could be days, weeks, months, or even years. We don’t see anything significant in the time between one big thing and the next. I find myself guilty of this all the time. We miss too much time that we could enjoy by considering it the wait for the next big thing. But please, please understand: EVERY MOMENT IS SIGNIFICANT.

You may be in the “off-season,” but you still have work to do. Athletes use the off-season to prepare for the next season. They use it to become stronger and smarter. They evaluate their prior performances and determine a plan for improvement. True athletes know that champions are made in the off-season. The same goes for believers.

There is a purpose for the season you are in currently. It may be a big time, or it may feel like an off-season. No matter the season, it is not a waste. This may be the season that you gain the knowledge or resources to excel in your next season. It is important. It is a time to seek the Kingdom in full force. The times when God seems silent are the seasons that He is preparing the biggest blessings. Don’t waste another second. Get out there and train harder than ever before.

It won’t be easy though. The enemy wants to convince you that this season holds no significance. He wants to pull you further from the Kingdom and throw you off course. If you get distracted and don’t train in your off season, you won’t be ready for the big things to come. You could miss the experiences or knowledge you were meant to get during this season that will prepare you for bigger things. Don’t let the enemy steal your future. Take it back!

Every second counts. Don’t miss what is going on now because you can’t wait to get to the next thing. Take the time to learn all that you can in your off-season. Slow down and enjoy every moment that is given to you. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll discover that this isn’t an off season at all!




Elevate Your Circle


I have a challenge for you today! I want to challenge you to evaluate your circle. By circle, I mean your circle of influence. The people around you who influence you and the people that you influence. Take inventory of these people. What are their goals? How hard to they work? What do their attitudes look like? How do they handle adversity? What do they do when they don’t get their way or when their plans are ruined? These people may be family, friends, mentors, role models, coworkers, etc. Do an honest evaluation, because there is a very good chance that you possess similar traits.

Are you happy with your evaluation? Do you want to have the same tendencies as the people in your circle? Or do you hold yourself to a higher standard? Do you want to achieve the same level of success as the people in your circle? Or do you want more for your future? You are the only person who can change your future. What do you want out of your life?

Oh, you want to walk in all the things that God has planned for your life? Great!!! Having a desire to live in God’s best is the first step in changing your situation. Now here’s where things get a bit tricky. Any time you step into something better, it is going to be uncomfortable. It’s like going up a staircase to a higher floor. The more levels you climb, the more your legs will burn. But, there is something better on each level. Keep climbing because you want the penthouse view on the very top. You will never get a penthouse view with a basement effort. It will take awhile to get there. And it will certainly be uncomfortable, but it is better to put in the work and get to the top than to stop on the second floor and wonder what you could have experienced if you had kept going.

If you are going to live in God’s best, you need to surround yourself with the right people. IF YOU ARE THE MOST FAITHFUL PERSON YOU KNOW, YOU NEED TO MEET NEW PEOPLE. If there is nobody in your circle who can push you to do better and hold you accountable, then you need to step out of your comfort zone and bring new people into your circle. You may have to leave some people behind. Now, I’m not telling you to quit your job because you don’t like your coworkers or ditch your parents because you don’t always agree with them. Some people are permanent, like your family or your coworkers for a season. But I am telling you to evaluate those people who are not permanent, like your friends. Are they building you up? Or are they draining you? Are they a negative influence? Or are they pushing you to grow your relationship with God? Are they lazy? Or are they chasing after their goals and encouraging you to do the same?

If your friends aren’t adding something to your life, then they need to go. You don’t have room for the people who are going to drag you down. You don’t have room for people who tell you that your dreams are just dreams that aren’t worth chasing. Those people are going to keep you in this season of life and prevent you from elevating because they don’t want anyone around them to achieve more than them. Small minded people are uncomfortable with success. They want to keep you from going where they have told themselves that they can’t go. Don’t let their limits leak over onto you. You have too much to do to waste time thinking you can’t get it done. If you are surrounded with people who aren’t doing anything, it’s time to bring new people into your circle.

There are certain kinds of people that you should put in your circle. These people are faithful. They are honest with you. They challenge you. They push you to become better. They are setting goals and achieving them. They have achieved more than you! It is important to surround yourself with people who have achieved more than you. You want to be around people who look like what you want to be. You will become like the people around you. So pick those people wisely. Don’t pick people who are going to hold you back or limit you. Pick the people who are doing great things. Elevate your circle today and be the best you that you can be!






Get Bold



Let’s talk! Have you ever felt like you’re just going through the motions? Me too….and it’s not a good feeling. It is easy to get caught up in the routine and let our fire burn out. It is one of the worst feelings. It is very important that you don’t get stuck here. One of the most dangerous things in the world is unused potential. So today, I am challenging you to be bold!

Boldness mixed with faith is a serious spiritual weapon. When you have the faith to trust God and the boldness to follow through, you are unstoppable. In Acts 4, the members of the church pray for spiritual boldness to accomplish the things of God…….and it is given to them. Ask God to help you to be bold today! He will help you to be bold and give you the strength to do His Will if you will only ask. After praying and seeking spiritual boldness, here are a few things you can do to stay bold:

  • Don’t settle: Never settle for less than what God has in mind for your life. There will be temptations to take the easy way out, but please resist. Never take the easy way out because you are going to miss out on the blessings that are in store for you at certain parts of your journey.
  • Do it right: Do everything you do to the best of your ability, and make sure it is done the right way. Never take shortcuts or cheat the system. Why you may get away with is in the short term, it will catch up to you. And while you may think that noone sees what you are doing, people are always watching. And, God always knows what you’re doing, so it’s better to just do it the right way.
  • Dream bigger than everyone else: Don’t get bound to the phrase “be realistic.” People who live by this phrase are sadly bound to low expectations. Don’t be afraid to dream bigger than everyone else around you. God’s plans for your life are so big that you don’t even have the ability to comprehend them, so dream as big as you possibly can. Dream so big that you are uncomfortable telling small minded people. Not everyone will support you, but you don’t need their approval, you need His approval.
  • Be intentional: When you have big dreams, they don’t do you any good if you don’t put them into action. You need to create a plan of action and get with it. Put your plan into action and get after it. Run so hard at your dream that people are scared to stop you. Don’t wait for confirmation. Pursue your God-given dreams actively and He will provide your next steps. Live with purpose all the time. If you wait for your purpose to fall in your lap, you will miss it entirely.
  • Never let anyone dull your sparkle: There is something so special about you. It’s something that only you have. You are unique. You have talents and abilities that only you possess. Use them. There are certain ideas that only you can come up with. Some ventures that only you were meant to take. You have a divine purpose and only you were made perfectly for your path. Don’t let someone who doesn’t believe in you steal your joy and dull your sparkle. The world needed one of you. Don’t let small minded people keep you from God’s best.

So, sweet friend, today I challenge you to be bold! Be the best you that you can be. No one else is like you. Nobody can do what you do! Be bold enough to ask for what you want and not settle for less. Never give up and never let anyone dull your sparkle!



Additional Resources:

  1. SOAR! By T.D. Jakes is a fantastic book for beginning entrepreneurs! It is also great for just stepping out of your comfort zone. It is a must-read!  
  2. Girl Code is an excellent read for any and all females. It talks about how to build a business from the ground up and supporting other women. Great read!
  3. How to Win Friends and Influence People this book gives you all the basics of dealing with people and increasing your influence. It also helps you to improve your influence. It is a must-have for anyone who wants to do something big!

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Get After It


Hey you! Yes, you! What are you waiting for? You know what you’re supposed to do! You have a calling, don’t ignore it! Why are you still waiting for confirmation? You KNOW this. If you wait too long, you are going to miss your window. You have an opportunity that you need to take. If you don’t the situation is never going to change.

You may be wondering how you’re supposed to go after it when you are still waiting on resources and materials that you need to go after this goal. It may seem impossible at this point because you don’t have what you need. I know how you feel. I’ve been the one dragging my feet because I didn’t feel prepared. But, guess what? God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called. He is waiting on your obedience to equip you for this journey. You have been sitting around waiting on God to make a way, when He’s telling you that this IS the way. He wants to bless you beyond your wildest dreams, so take a chance and listen to Him.

Instead of sitting around wondering when God is going to make this happen for you, get out there and pursue the path He has for you. He isn’t going to push you through the door, He has already opened it for you. It is your job to walk through it. Don’t hesitate. You don’t know how long that door will stay open. If you choose to wait for a miraculous sign in order to act, you will miss your chance. You aren’t going to get a miraculous sign that confirms your calling before you choose to pursue it. God confirms his plans to you AFTER you are obedient. Not before. This is how faith works. You may not know what is on the other side of the door, but you walk through it anyway because you trust your Father to have your best interest at heart.

I’m not going to lie to you. This is going to be tough. Nothing worth pursuing is ever easy and done without sacrifice. You may have to walk away from certain things or people to get where He is calling you. You may have to leave things you love behind. You will face opposition. You will come under attack when you are on the right path. There will be times when you think don’t think this is worth it. When you feel like this was a big mistake. There will be times when you have no idea what you’re doing and you’re scared to death. There will be times where you feel like you’re flying by the seat of your pants and times where you feel like you are walking into it blind. But please, never give up.

This world needs someone like you. It needs what God is trying to do through you. You have a purpose. It comes with a cost, but the reward is far beyond the limits of your imagination. Your greatest aspirations will make God laugh. You are His child and He knows what you are capable of. He knew you before Creation and decided that you needed to be put on Earth. That is special. You can do this. The God of the Universe is ordering your steps. Don’t get too caught up in confirmation that you miss your calling. Get. After. It.




Tips for Handling Finances in College


Hey there! College can be one of the scariest, but most exciting ventures! Everything changes when you get to college. You may move away from home, your friends, and your family. You leave everything that is your normal life behind. You are now charged with more responsibilities: having a job, getting to classes on time, making good choices without your parents around, when to go to sleep, what to eat, and definitely how to handle your money. If you learn the right way to handle money now while you have little, then you will be much better at it when you graduate and make actual money. Financial discipline is so important in college. Here are my best tips for handling your finances God’s way:

  • Realize that it isn’t your money: Nothing on this earth belongs to us. It all belongs to Him. Therefore, our money is His also. When you realize that your money isn’t really yours, it makes it easier to handle it the right way.
  • Tithe: This is the most important thing you can do with your money. Tithing is giving 10% of your income back to God by giving it to your church. This is the ONLY area in the Bible where God says to test Him. That means He must be pretty serious about it! Many believers don’t know the power of tithing. It is an act of obedience that God uses to bless you abundantly. You aren’t doing Him any favors my tithing, He doesn’t need your money. He is giving you an opportunity to be infinitely blessed. He is doing you the favor by giving you the opportunity to tithe. Tithing is a great blessing. If you are worried about not being able to afford to give God any of your money, remember that it isn’t really yours. Financial success isn’t about how much of your money you give to God, it’s about how much of God’s money you keep. Don’t block your blessing by stealing from God.
  • Give: Giving may seem counterproductive when you’re in a financial rut. I hear you. However, God says that the measure that we give with will be given back to us. This means that if we bless others, we will be blessed. If you are faithful while you have little, then you will be given more. Give where God tells you. If He says to do it, then do it gladly and without hesitation. He gives you opportunities because He wants to multiply your finances. Trust in the God that supplies all of our needs.
  • Save: You should be saving a large part of your money after tithing. Put away money for emergencies and for your future. Don’t spend every dollar that comes into your possession.


  • Prioritize your expenses: Make a list of expenses: Tithe, savings, emergency fund, bills, food, gas, shopping, fun, etc. Determine which expenses are necessary and which can come at the end after the necessary expenses are paid. Non-essential expenses should be on the budget if there is no money left over after tithing, saving, and paying bills. You will become better at handling your money and you will begin having more money left over each pay period as you become more disciplined.
  • Stay away from credit cards: Credit cards are rarely a good idea on a college campus. They can cause you to overspend and get deep into debt. You may already have student loans that you will be paying on for years, so you don’t need this added financial burden. Credit cards allow you to spend way more than you have and can quickly devour your finances. It is best to just avoid them in general.
  • Be smart and set goals: Don’t throw away money on things that you don’t need. It is fine to splurge sometimes, but you shouldn’t be making daily trips to the mall. And while you may want a giant fancy coffee every day (my guilty pleasure), it is definitely not in your best interest to make this a daily habit. Make goals to help you stay focused. Make goals for saving. I like to use SMART goals. SMART goals are: specific, measureable, achievable, realistic/relevant, and time-based. When you have goals in mind, you are more likely to handle your finances with care.
  • Start investing: You don’t have to start with a lot, but it is always important to prepare for your future. I really love using STASH because it allows you to invest small amounts and add to it whenever you want. My first investment was literally $5. You can get the app right on your phone and monitor your investments. Use the link to get $5 when you start! $5 for STASH



While college can provide you with plenty of temptations to drain your finances, it is possible to be financially fit. You don’t have to throw away all of your money in college. It is possible to have money when you graduate. When you do it God’s way, you will have His blessing.